Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Healthy Living: Choose To Be Happy

"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections." ~ Unknown 
Part of healthy living is simply being happy.  It is the human experience to always be chasing happiness isn’t it?  The belief that happiness is elusive and always out of reach has somehow worked its way into our collective unconscious. 

But happiness is not elusive or out of reach and I am going to tell you right now what you need to do to be happy.  If you want to be happy, then choose to be happy.  *Brushes hands together satisfactorily* There you go, done.

It’s not that easy you say? Well, that’s one way to look at it. Another way to look at is that maybe it pretty much is just that easy. 

3 Simple Ways To Choose Happiness

Empower Yourself

You are in control of your life.  If you need to let go of relationships, obligations, your job, or anything else that makes you unhappy then do it.  Take control, it’s yours to yield.  

If there is something making you unhappy that you “can’t” let go of rethink your language. Get rid of “I can’t” and replace it with “I choose”.  Instead of “I hate my job but I can’t afford to leave it” try “I choose to keep this job because it provides for my family.” 

You always have a choice.   Take responsibility for your choices and acknowledge why you make the choices you do.  When you start to realize that you choose your job because it helps you support your family, you can start to think about other ways to support your family.  “I choose” is empowering and only opens your mind to opportunities. “I can’t” is self-limiting.

Ask For What You Need. 

Don’t wait for others to offer what you need to be happy.  No matter how much your family loves you they do not know how to make you happy unless you tell them. Try to really identify what would make you happy and ask for what you need from those around you.  

Do you need time to relax and be on your own?  A babysitter once a month so you can have a girls night out? More support and help from your spouse around the house or support from your family while you transition into a different career path?  Have a clear idea of exactly what it is you need and ask for it.

Stop Clinging

The more you emotionally attach yourself to things, ideas, or even your daily routine the more likely you are to suffer when these things change, and they will.  

If you enjoy watching TV and appreciate it but are not overly attached to it, then it’s not such a big deal if you can’t afford to pay the cable bill one month (you choose to spend you money on other things) or your TV goes out.

The less attached to things or circumstances, the less likely you are to become unhappy when they inevitably change.

There is so much more that could be said...
on the topic of happiness, but really it all comes down to choice.  If you look for one, there will always be a reason to choose to be unhappy. If you look for reasons to choose happiness, you will always find one.  Focus on the reasons you have to choose happiness and be happy.  :)

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